The 8 Reasons Why You Havent Found Your Mr. Right

The 8 Reasons Why You Havent Found Your Mr. Right

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The 8 Reasons Why You Havent Found Your Mr. Right

The statistics, in this case, dont lie.

By the age of 50, 27.6% of women are still single. Thats more than 1 in 4.

Some of them of course, are not interested in finding a man as a life long partner and if theyre genuinely happy, thats fine. Although it does need to be a genuine wish to stay single, not a once held desire to be partnered now lost. Youll learn more about that below.

But youre reading this, so I suspect you are interested in finding your Mr. Right. So youll need to know which of the following 8 reasons is stopping you finding him. Of course it could be more than just 1 of these reasons.

Whichever apply to you (or even if your reason isnt identified here), they all have the same effect. If you continue to hold these reasons dear to your heart, you will not find your Mr. Right. Harsh I know. But youll understand why by the end of this article.

However, if you are prepared to tackle the issue, then you really can find your Mr. Right.

So what are the top 8 reasons why you havent yet find your Mr. Right?

1. Youve been burnt in the past by relationships and its just too painful to go out and look for another

Some women keep this reason so well hidden within themselves that they dont even realise thats their reason. Maybe its years since you split up with this partner, but you felt so hurt, so damaged by the break up that you just cant bear to put yourself through it again. As a result you arent out actively looking for, or getting, dates on a regular basis.

2. Your self esteem is low

Who would love me? Im not attractive. No one would want to go out with me. Thats the kind of things you say to yourself if you dont have the self esteem you need to go out and get the relationship you genuinely deserve.

There are a whole host of reasons why you may not have the esteem but the important thing is that the belief that youre not worthy of a loving, caring partner is a serious block which you can address.

3. There arent any decent men out there

This belief is commonly rooted in the first reason I talked about above; being burnt in the past. But there are other reasons. It could be that your standards are unattainably high sometimes you set them that high to protect yourself from being hurt again or from being rejected. Yes, it is possible that you genuinely cant find suitable men, but there are millions out there, its rarely solely to do with looking in the wrong places.

4. I just dont have time

If you rise before the sun and youre too exhausted when you return from work, its understandable that you dont have time to go out and socialise. But just how important is it for you to find a life long partner? If it really isnt that important, dont worry about it, just keep going at your career.

However, if you still have that niggling feeling that you really do want to find him, you must change your routine to free up time to go out looking for and going on dates.

If you havent managed to put those changes in place within a month, theres a bigger, hidden, secondary reason why youre not making the time for it.

5. Youre concerned theres something wrong with you

Surely its one of our biggest fears that were not loveable. If you put yourself out there and nobody wants to be with you, isnt that whats being said? So by not putting yourself out there to be rejected, you dont run the risk of learning that message. In other words, by not taking action to find Mr. Right you can never be said to be un-loveable because you havent really tried.

The reality of course is that you are loveable. By the way, you may have spotted that this reason is very closely tied to self esteem again.

6. You dont like the dating scene

Maybe you dont like pubs and clubs smoky atmospheres and drunken sleazes trying to chat you up. And what if you dont like internet dating either? Lots of time wasters, losers and geeks. I always tell my clients that dating is a numbers game. If youre chopping out all the high number options then youre definitely making it a whole lot more difficult for yourself.

There are alternatives, just as long as youre prepared to invest more time in ploughing through the numbers. And yes, you will always come across men you see as losers, geeks or sleazy wherever you go. Thats why it always helps to have a clear picture of who youre planning on meeting because when youve had another fruitless night of dating, you can always comfort yourself with the clear picture in your mind of your future Mr. Right.

7. You dont believe you need to actively search for him

It will happen naturally. Wont it? Well hows that strategy worked for you so far? If youve been waiting to find him naturally for the last 10 years, how many more decades do you want to try this as a method?

Searching for him doesnt mean youre #수원가라오케 desperate or that youre breaking some hidden female rule. It simply means you get a lot more guys to pick from and youre much more likely to find someone wholl be perfect for you.

Theres a lot of historical social proof to suggest that your knight should just come riding in on his white horse. But Ive got news for you the horse went out as a means of transport in the 19th century!

8. You dont believe you can significantly affect the likelihood of finding your Mr. Right

I just havent found him yet its just a case of waiting for the right man to come along.

Theres a statistic published by one of the dating agencies at the moment that it takes 432 introductions to find your partner. Well youve already met more than 432 people in your life. Theres something youre doing or something you believe that is affecting your ability to attract your Mr. Right. If you dont change it, you wont find him. Not because he isnt out there, but because your actions keep him away from you. You may not know what it is that youre doing, but be reassured that you can change it if you a) work out what it is, and b) decide that you are committed to changing it.

So those are the 8 top reasons. There are more. But they all have one thing in common. They are beliefs that affect your ability to attract the right man. If you really want to find your Mr. Right all you need to do is work out which ones are preventing you finding him and take action to change them.

Whats preventing you?

Michael Myerscough is the author of the best-selling ebook Finding Mr. Right.

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